It's No Fairy Tale
I have loved you with an everlasting love…" - Jeremiah 31:3
When I was younger, I fell truly, madly, deeply in love with a handsome young man who had it all, and I promptly put him up on the pedestal of my heart. When I looked at him, I saw a combination of my handsome Prince Charming, Rhett Butler, and “Desperado” (the Eagles sang a song about him.) In him, I saw everything I wanted in a boyfriend, and glimpses of the life-companion I hoped he would become. The only thing I didn’t see was the real person who was right there in front of me. The more I expected of him, the more my disappointment grew. I felt “if he really loved me” he would want to spend more time with me and he would stay in closer communication…after all, people make time to do the things they really want to do, right? If I was his Number One priority - like he was mine - I would not be left alone feeling like I ran a distant third place to the “truly important” things he was doing.
The truth was, he did love me, but not in the way I understood or needed. While I felt unloved and unappreciated, he felt defeated and incapable of doing anything right. It wasn’t until many years – and tears – later that I realized he was not the fairy tale prince I had envisioned and tried to make him into. My inability – or refusal – to see (and accept) him for who he really was had set us up for failure, and caused us both a lot of hurt.
While your Prince Charming might be the real thing, you may have known other people who disappointed you or were not what they seemed to be at first glance. There is also the very real possibility that you have had at least one relationship where someone expected more from you than you could possibly give. Unmet expectations and disappointments are just part of the life we live; there’s no way around it. If you think life on a pedestal wouldn’t be so bad, try standing on top of one for a few hours.
But there is One who has promised to never leave us or forsake us. His love is authentic and true, and really will endure for all eternity. He wants to spend every moment of every day with you and He is a great listener. He has no unrealistic expectations, and He knows you even better than you know yourself. His name is Jesus, and He is the best Prince Charming that ever lived…only He is no fairy tale prince. He is the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords who wants to give you all the riches of His Kingdom, and to fill your heart and life with so much love it is beyond your wildest imagination.
Prayer: Jesus, my dearest love and my best friend…thank you for loving me so completely and for teaching me what real love is all about. Thank you for never complaining or condemning me when I fail you. In Your presence I find only forgiveness, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, love, mercy, grace and truth. You are my strength, my encouragement and the embodiment of love. I love you with all of my heart and look forward to our happily ever after…in Your precious name I pray, amen.
“I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory…for ever and ever! Amen.” – Ephesians 3:17-21
“I have loved you just as the Father has loved me. You must go on living in my love. If you keep my commandments you will live in my love just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and live in his love. I have told you this so that you can share my joy, and that your happiness may be complete. This is my commandment: that you love each other as I have loved you. There is no greater love than this—that a man should lay down his life for his friends.” – John 15:9-15
"Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” ~ Hebrews 13:5
“For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” - Romans 8:38-39
“…for your Creator will be your “husband.” The Lord Almighty is his name; he is your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel, the God of all the earth.” - Isaiah 54:5